Are you happy with where you are at right now? Do you want to be more, do more or live more? In this my first column, I am going to shed light on the Art of Living Without Limits.
Many of us are fearful of failure, so we limit ourselves to believe that we don’t have to try. We feel if we try, we may fail. All my life I have been intrigued by capacity.
My grandfather used to always say, "Challenge your capacity – you can do this! Don’t think of the limits because there are none, it is all in your head."
However, I used to question myself all the time about my own capacity, it kept reverberating in my mind. Whether it is my work, my home, or my community work, I found myself asking, "can I be better, do better and live better?"
While my mind was being bombarded by these thoughts, I came across the Capacity Challenge and the fun in understanding what it means.
Capacity Challenge is the mental game of no limits. Many of us hear the word *CAPACITY* and they immediately think *LIMITATION*. They assume their capacity is set – especially if they are beyond a certain age. "I am too old, too weak, too shy, too slow and too..." – those are common thoughts for someone who fear life more than they want to live life.
People give up on the idea that their capacity can grow. All they do is try to manage whatever they think they’ve got. In short, they work with what they think they have.
The truth is – there is a lot more inside a human being.
To achieve a no-limit life you need to grow into your awareness, develop your abilities and make the right choices. All these added together become your Capacity.
There are CAPS you can remove and CAPS you cannot remove.
Caps you cannot remove
1. Birth Caps: Your place of birth, the year you are born, your birth family and your birth characteristics.
2. Life Caps: We cannot control how our life begins or takes place. Many things happen to us in our lives that we cannot control – accidents, illness, losing people we love…
Caps you can remove
1. Opinion Caps: The limitations others put on you. For instance, people say you cannot do it and you believe them, thus limiting your growth potential by trusting others’ opinions.
2. Living Caps: Caps you put on yourself when you look for approval from others, or people who simply accept what environment they are born into, and start to think it is normal. They believe they don’t have other choices.
3. Trial Caps: You have few successes, so you give up too early.
The process of loosening your Caps begins by exposing yourselves to new ideas and successful people. And when it is loose enough, the Cap will come off, allowing you to be at your highest capacity.
I have great belief in the strength of the human spirit. I want all your Caps to loosen so that you can be more significant and more successful. Some of you might not know me, but let’s begin with my belief in you. As a human being, you have huge potential. But we forget that potential and choose to play small, so small that we want to hide.
"Hide from what?" you may ask.
From Criticism, Judgement, Failure.
Now ask yourself: "Are these three words BIG enough to limit your potential?"
Words should never be the obstruction to life goals.
Make the right choices in life and understand that your choices will take charge of your life. Choices based on good values and right intentions, and have the right attitude regardless of the circumstances. Get out of your comfort zone and allow yourself to grow. Lastly, believe that it is ok to have more in life.
If you want to be more, do more and live more. You cannot be the same, think the same, act the same if you hope to be successful in a world that does not remain the same.
Belynda Lee, a leadership trainer, speaker and best-selling author, writes on how we can be the best version of ourselves. Belyndalee.com